Eppy ([info]lizzypaul) wrote,
@ 2007-01-23 10:52:00
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Entry tags:family, job, queer stuff

Well, I got a job at Home Depot. It's not very glamorous--I'm a cashier--but it pays well, and it's a nice environment to work on. Also, I didn't think I fulfilled enough lesbian stereotypes, so this is one more I can check off the list. :)

Oh, and DRAMA at my house (when isn't there drama?). Apparently, while cleaning out Grandma's house, my auntie found a couple books with gay themes (Stranger at the Gate and Taking a Chance on God). I knew Aunt D. was going through some of my grandma's things, but didn't even think of her pawing through my stuff, considering all my things were out of the way and apart from Grandma's. Oi.

So my aunt, of course, had to tell the rest of the extended family "for my own good". She called my parents, all frantic, "Do you know what your daughter is doing?" etc. My mom finally told her that she loved me and was proud of me, which created even more drama. She sent me a very long, very hurtful letter. I haven't even finished the letter, because a page into it I was so pissed off, I just set it aside. Dad wants me to write her back and thank her for her concern and assure her that I still love her and will consider what she said (OMG I COULD KILL MY FATHER. THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT, DAD.) while Mom says I should ignore it and wait for it to blow over. Two of my other uncles have already called Dad for the 411, and I'm so glad that my sexual orientation is causing a nice distraction from THEIR MOTHER'S DEATH.

ARRGH.

So between working at Home Depot, joining the GLBT club at school, and the unplanned outing drama, I feel like a super dyke. I thought about getting a superman-like t-shirt made with SD in the middle. :)



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[info]thecityofdis
2007-01-23 06:57 pm UTC (link)
On the upside, you are one of the most fantastic, compassionate dykes I've met. So if that means you need a little leeway every once and a while to commit patricide, then so be it.

Also, I must confess that initially when reading this entry, I thought the twist to the story would be that your grandmother was a lesbian.

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[info]moriath
2007-01-23 08:11 pm UTC (link)
lol, glad to know I'm not the only one who is more than a little warped like that...

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[info]lizzypaul
2007-01-25 06:32 pm UTC (link)
Aw, you're sweet. And while my patricidal impulses have passed, it's nice to know I have your permission. ;)

Also, I must confess that initially when reading this entry, I thought the twist to the story would be that your grandmother was a lesbian.

HA! Now that would have been cool.

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[info]pumagrrl
2007-01-23 07:05 pm UTC (link)
Congrats on your job!
And oh, that aunt of yours, what a nerve! She had no business going through your stuff.
Maybe you should write her? Maybe you should write her a sarcastic letter thanking her for her concern and offer to go through her things and straighten out her life? What about that tendency to gossip? She would probably be very grateful for your admonitions. :D

Now I want to read those books.

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[info]lizzypaul
2007-01-25 06:33 pm UTC (link)
Maybe you should write her? Maybe you should write her a sarcastic letter thanking her for her concern and offer to go through her things and straighten out her life? What about that tendency to gossip? She would probably be very grateful for your admonitions.

That's, like, the best suggestion ever. I won't do it because I'm kind of a wuss, but that would be awesome.

Now I want to read those books.

Oooh, do. They're both wonderful.

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[info]pumagrrl
2007-01-25 06:49 pm UTC (link)
The maybe your dad should write that letter? I'm sure she would appreciate her brother's admonitions, at least :D
And I know what to look for at Amazon next ...

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One of my favorite Will And Grace moments...
[info]rainbowgoddess
2007-01-23 07:08 pm UTC (link)
Jack: Say something in Lesbionic.
Rosie O'Donnell: Home Depot.
Jack: Sweet KD Lang! Your ARE a lesbian!

Yeah, congrats on the job, I'm sorry your family is wacky. It'll calm down though. I agree with your mom, just ignore your aunt.

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Re: One of my favorite Will And Grace moments...
[info]lizzypaul
2007-01-25 06:36 pm UTC (link)
Hee. (I also like the episode where Jack was explaining why Thanksgiving is a lesbian holiday. Totally don't remember the lines--or even what episode, it was a Lifetime rerun--but I fell off my chair, I was laughing so hard.)

You're right, it'll calm down. And I'm glad I have my Mom's support. The last time there was Coming Out Drama, she was the one creating the drama, so...this is a lot easier.

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[info]moriath
2007-01-23 08:13 pm UTC (link)
Congrats on the job (yay for fulfilling stereotypes!), sucks about the family (totally understand your anger at your dad. 'Cause why on earth would you want to do that?).

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[info]lizzypaul
2007-01-25 06:38 pm UTC (link)
Thanks!

My poor dad. We call him Polyanna. He always assumes the absoulte best about everyone and every situation. Which is nice, but sometimes he ignores reality and inadvertantly hurts people (or himself).

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[info]christianblog
2007-01-23 10:41 pm UTC (link)
I hope you settle in really well with the new job, Eppy. Also, about the relatives - well in the end I think this sort of thing becomes yesterday's news, and maybe they need time, I dunno. You are you, and deeply impressive. I do know it's hard coming out to the wider family, because suddenly you feel like they're re-defining you when, no, actually, you're still just you, and haven't changed from being you.

I hope you can stay reasonably calm on this and keep the high ground. The key relationships are closer to home (eg your mother and father) and I think you know they're with you because they simply love you.

Anyway, like I say, I hope the job goes well. You always have my respect and I just think : oh, she deserves really good things in her life - and good people.

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[info]lizzypaul
2007-01-25 06:42 pm UTC (link)
Thank you so much. That means a lot to me.

You're right, I'm sure this will blow over soon. The thing that really bugs me is that to people in the wider family, who don't know me so well, I'm going to become "the family lesbian". I mean, in a family as big as mine, I'm sure there are other gay people, but right now, I'm the only one who is out. Sheesh.

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[info]loversheart
2007-01-23 10:57 pm UTC (link)
dude yor going all dyke on me ? Sweet !!!!!!!!!! Hey if you don't like Homo Depot..... join RGIS and become a Auditor.. There based in cali you know.. then we can really travel and se each other.

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[info]mizzmarvel
2007-01-23 11:54 pm UTC (link)
*facepalms*

Sorry for the drama, but yay for the job! Go you. :D

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[info]this_bugs_4_you
2007-01-24 10:29 pm UTC (link)
that IS amazing. in a horrible, horrible way. but just think, as soon as your spirit heals from this trauma, it will make a great plot for a screenplay. or a sitcom pilot?

congrats, and yay to God for helping you see that there are good things amidst the ridiculousnesses :)

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[info]femaleinvert
2007-01-29 02:25 am UTC (link)
Hey it's Monika ([info]sfubc). This is my new journal so please please please add me back :) Thank you and I love you :)

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